Hello everyone! I am new to this forum and am very excited that have found it. My son is turning 8 years old next month and here is the brief history of his problems.
At age 3 he stopped bedwetting for 2 weeks and I was sure we are all done with the potty-training and night bedwetting. However he got pneumonia and the bedwetting came back. He hasn't been dry at night since... He has occasional drippings during the day as well, however after going through various medical exams (urology, MRI, etc.) the doctors didn't find any problems.
He's always been sleeping with his mouth open, very deep sleeper (impossible to wake up), needs 11 hours of sleep, had cases of night terrors and snoring (on and off). After doing some research, I realized he may have sleep apnea. In addition to the symptoms above, he is a pretty moody child, even though bright, isn't doing as well academically as he could be. Sleep study was done last September and after that was completed, the doctors diagnosed him with OSA. Even though his tonsils and adenoids are normal size, 3 doctors are recommending T&A (2 ENTs and the sleep study specialist). They aren't guaranteeing that this will help with sleep apnea or enuresis, but are saying the chances are good. They also mentioned his narrow throat size and jaw structure could be contributing to OSA, but they aren't sure.
I don't have the details of the sleep study with me. The main things doctors mentioned was that his breathing stopped for an average of 20 seconds. Not all of those cases were obstructive. He did get good % of oxygen through the night.
I am really not sure what to do - we scheduled the surgery for 24th of March, however even though all doctors we've seen are recommending T&A, I just feel uneasy about it. I am not sure if I should be considering this surgery as necessary or optional. Should we wait? Could he outgrow the problem? What are the downsides of T&A?

