First of all, like SleepyToo said, we can offer more help if you can give more information about your mask, etc.
You say you want an "easier" alternative to bipap, and that you'd rather die of a stroke at 50 than deal with the machine. Really? I suggest you take a field trip to the nearest rehab facility and see what the aftermath of a stroke can be like. While you're at it, visit the cardiac unit of the hospital and see the effects of a heart attack, another possible consequence of untreated apnea. There are a lot worse things than having to use a cpap.
Lest you think that I am unsympathetic and don't know what you're going through, let me assure you, I do. I was on bipap for over a year, with virtually no results. I have severe complex apnea, and finally was switched to an asv machine. And while there was some improvement, it still wasn't working as well as it should. So I made an appointment at the nearest big teaching hospital, with the director of the sleep lab there. He looked at my sleep studies and immediately saw that my leg movements were a problem, and prescribed Mirapex, a med for restless leg syndrome. Finally, I am getting quality sleep, and am slowly starting to feel like my old self. So, the sleep apnea was not the only problem, and it is takiing a combination of asv and Mirapex to deal with it.
You may have something else going on besides the apnea. If you are not seeing a qualified sleep specialist, then you might want to consider doing so. My former doctor was a pulmonologist, and a very nice person. But in the year that she was treating me, she never once mentioned that the leg movements might be affecting my sleep. She was concentrating only on the apnea, and that just wasn't enough. It took another pair of eyes to see what else might be wrong.
Please don't give up. Sleep apnea is a very serious condition, and not an easy thing to live with. And each individual is different. What works for one person will not necessarily work for another. There is a lot of trial and error. There is a solution for you, but you have to keep digging until you find it. We're here to help, and the more information you can provide, the more we can do.
Best of luck
Resmed Vpap Adapt SV Enhanced, Respironics Fit Life total face mask, Forma full face mask.
Complex apnea, original AHI 80