I think I have a new one for you guys. I am not getting any support from my family. I had the Titration study on Monday, and felt better than I have in a long time. It took me awhile to realize this, and when I returned home from the study, my RRT wife asked me how I felt? I, at that time, told her the same as always, but as time went on, I realy felt good. I had more energy, and was my old self.
Yesterday, I couldn't wait to leave the office, I was so sleepy. I came home and went straight to napping. I do this all the time. I will sleep an hour or 2, then go back to bed at 9 or so, sleep until 4 if I am lucky. My wife and I got into an auful argument last night over this. She does not denie I have Apnea, but insist I record my sleeping habits for my follow up with the Doc. I finaly sent her out of the room, telling her she didn't know shinola about this, and that I knew more than she. Needless to say, she got mad and left me alone. Now, she says she understands, but I don't think she believes this is the cure. Shouldn't she, being a Respitory therapist, understand?? I think, she thinks, I am just lazy, which is not the case. I am not a RRT, but you can bet that I educate myself on everything I do, all my life. I have eyes and know how to read! My doctors have always said I didn't need them when I have a problem, because I always know the solution. What do you do about this fighting with the ones who (should) know more than you?

So...are you saying that your wife is being non-supportive because she wants you to keep a sleep diary?


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Ramona


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Looks like it. I think I will keep her awake for a couple of days, and she what she thinks.

Hi Ambrola:
When you start your sleep diary, put this in as the first entry:

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Yesterday, I couldn't wait to leave the office, I was so sleepy. I came home and went straight to napping. I do this all the time. I will sleep an hour or 2, then go back to bed at 9 or so, sleep until 4 if I am lucky.

If you get a lot of those, then you have either another sleep issue or your therapy might not be quite right.

Stop aggravating your wife.  If she really was non-supportive, she wouldn't say anything and would be taking out a ton of life insurance policies on you.
sleepydave



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I haven't started therapy yet. I just had the 2nd study done, and felt great. Now I am back at home, without anything, and its the same old story. Go to the Doc next week, and feel sure I will get the machine.

Ambrola wrote:

I think I have a new one for you guys. I am not getting any support from my family. I had the Titration study on Monday, and felt better than I have in a long time. It took me awhile to realize this, and when I returned home from the study, my RRT wife asked me how I felt? I, at that time, told her the same as always, but as time went on, I realy felt good. I had more energy, and was my old self.
Yesterday, I couldn't wait to leave the office, I was so sleepy. I came home and went straight to napping. I do this all the time. I will sleep an hour or 2, then go back to bed at 9 or so, sleep until 4 if I am lucky. My wife and I got into an auful argument last night over this. She does not denie I have Apnea, but insist I record my sleeping habits for my follow up with the Doc. I finaly sent her out of the room, telling her she didn't know shinola about this, and that I knew more than she. Needless to say, she got mad and left me alone. Now, she says she understands, but I don't think she believes this is the cure. Shouldn't she, being a Respitory therapist, understand?? I think, she thinks, I am just lazy, which is not the case. I am not a RRT, but you can bet that I educate myself on everything I do, all my life. I have eyes and know how to read! My doctors have always said I didn't need them when I have a problem, because I always know the solution. What do you do about this fighting with the ones who (should) know more than you?

I guess I'm confused by a few things.
So you've not started cpap therapy yet, is that right?  (assuming this, considering you just had the titration study)
Also, it's not clear what your wife was upset about.

Be sure to talk to her about what you're going through.  And try to understand what is bothering her.

If in fact she doesn't think cpap therapy is of any use, then drop the subject.  She is smart in one sense.  Recording your sleeping habits, both before starting cpap and after starting, is a very good idea.  People do this in different ways.  After I started cpap, I would email a fellow cpapper, describing how things went and how I felt.  That helped me to focus on how I was doing and see if there was something I should be concerned about.  And it helped me vent my woes.  Some people keep just a running journal.  However you do it, it is a good idea.  Sometimes things don't work quite right after starting cpap, and it's important to notice your  habits, how you are breathing, if the mask is leaking, and how and when, anything you notice.  Noticing these things will only help you figure out what the problems are if there are any.  Also, it's a reminder of why you need this therapy.

It is true that someone who does not have sleep apnea cannot completely relate to those who do have it.  But they can come pretty close.  And you are the best person to let them know what it's like.  For all those other times, when you just need to talk to someone who has sleep apnea, this discussion forum and/or local support groups can really help.  Not everyone will understand completely what you're going through.  But if you get relief, the positive changes in your life will make your loved ones see that this was the best thing for you.  Be easy on your wife.  Try and understand what's on her mind.  And if it's contrary to what you understand to be true, just try and smooth things over.  Family is most important.  Don't alienate any loved one.  You need each other.


Linda

Any change can affect a relationship.  Change can make people uneasy.

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guess I'm confused by a few things.
So you've not started cpap therapy yet, is that right? (assuming this, considering you just had the titration study)
Yes Linda, That is the case. I had the titration study, and felt wonderful the next day. Now I am waiting on the follow up with my doc. which will result in cpap. I will not have a problem with using it, as many people do. It didn't bother me at all at the sleep study. I just don't understand why someone, who is educated in this area would question the reason I need it. She knows me better than anyone in the world, and mabey she sees something I don't.

While I was waiting to get my CPAP, my wife was very non-supportive.  In fact, she gave me sheer hell for about a week.  Looking back, I think it was because she was afraid of the unknown.  Afraid, it would cause problems with intimacy, her sleep, etc.  Once I had the CPAP, she started to realize that I wasn't snoring (I could rattle the windows!), I wasn't thrashing around in bed all night and I was a much more pleasant human being!  The best advice that I can give is to be patient.  Once you start your CPAP therapy, I think things will probably work themselves out.  At least that was the case with me.