My husband of 17 years left me - he said it was  because I snored.  About 2 months before he left I was diagnosed with sleep apnea, and got the CPAP. Even though I started using it right away, and it stopped my snoring - I guess it was too late. I am now feeling ashamed and unfeminine because I snored so loudly it ended my marriage. And now  - a year  after my marriage has ended; I am scared about meeting anyone else for fear that I will get rejected when he finds out that I have to wear a mask at night. Anybody else going through this?

You can't blame yourself.  He left for another reason and blamed your CPAP.  He treated you unfairly.   I'm so very sorry.  YOU know that you're feminine.  He wasn't man enough to treat you like a lady.

In new relationships, I would be upfront about your need to use a CPAP.  You won't be wearing it ALL of the time you're in bed...just when you're ready to sleep.

Dh said he didn't mind the loud snoring, It was the total silence between them that woke him up! Your x just used that as an excuse. . besides I don't think it would work too well with it on.( might be entertaining though) the mask usually comes out after. just explain, a good partner won't mind.
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Carla

Dorma-I can understand how you feel-although I am by myself, so I have not had the experience of a man knowing that I must sleep on CPAP.  I am only 38. I worry sometimes, if I meet someone wonderful, what will he think?  But then I tell myself, someone who is deep and real, and truly loves the partner, will love them no matter what!  I also have a thick vertical scar that looks like a nightcrawler stuck to my abdoman-runs from my breastbone to below my navel.  I inherited this when I had a splenectomy 16 years ago.  I have always struggled with the scar-But I remind myself  of all the good qualities in myself-you need to do that too.  Your deepest inner beauty will radiate circles around anything that is external!  Tape a list of your attributes (and your husband's) to the bathroom mirror, and leave love notes under his pillow.  Blessings to you, to help you feel beautiful. Lantern4life